Understanding Your Relationships

Does any of this sound familiar?
“I love my children equally – but I can’t understand why my daughter and I can’t get along!”
“Try as I might, my in-laws just won’t accept me!”
“My sister is jealous of everything I do!”
“My best friend is spreading gossip about me!”

Relationships can be difficult, and we’re often hard-pressed to figure out why. Your adult children seem to have never outgrown their rebellious stage, your in-laws are trying their best to turn your spouse against you, someone you thought was your friend betrays you, or your parents and siblings aren’t supportive of your lifestyle.

The key to understanding the issues you might be facing in your important relationships today may very well lie in the past.

We come into this lifetime with many of the souls we’ve met before. While it’s true that we might have a common goal in reincarnating with a past friend or relative, it’s also true that we incarnate with the hope of resolving past issues or conflicts. Your child might have been your oppressed servant, your in-laws could have been your business rivals, your friend may have been a scorned lover, and your parents or siblings might have been political enemies.

I’d like to share a case study (with names changed) from my own practice that I hope will demonstrate how exploring the past may shed some light on relationship issues today …
     Billie is a warm, loving woman with adult children. She has a strong religious, moral and ethical base, and is immersed in the care and well-being of her family. Billie came to me hoping to gain some insight into why her now estranged daughter-in-law Sarah had continually rejected any overture Billie made to include her in the family.
In her past life regression, Billie saw herself as an older Roman soldier, long past his prime. As the soldier, Billie spotted a woman doing laundry by the stream, and described the woman by saying “she’s young, early 20’s … a slave girl who belongs to my son. I feel sorry for her, and don’t want her to be harmed. She has already been harmed.” He asked the woman “Is there any way I can help you?” – but realized that he had “no power over freeing her because she’s not mine. I’m just a weak old man.”
     At the time of death, Billie was in a cold, damp bedroom, dying of old age, and the slave was there. Billie said the soldier could not forgive himself because his job kept him away from home and he hadn’t been able to help the slave woman, but he did feel that he had since been able to keep the woman safe. “She’s bitter and angry about the treatment she’s received before I came home; long before I showed up.”
     In our discussion after the regression, Billie was quite convinced that the slave was her daughter-in-law Sarah in this lifetime, who was still angry because of the treatment she had received by Billie’s son Matthew in the past life. Billie commented that her daughter-in-law was fiercely independent, and was sad that the young woman couldn’t let herself accept the love Billie had offered her. As an added insight, Billie felt that she now understood why Sarah ultimately destroyed her marriage to Matthew as she attempted to balance the karmic relationship from the past lifetime as master and slave.   

So many of our personal relationships with family members, friends and coworkers are fraught with the unresolved issues we carry forward from past lifetimes. Some theologians teach that we incarnate without past life memories to give us the opportunity to “test” ourselves to see if we can balance our karma unwittingly. 

I’m a firm believer that when we learn about our karmic relationships through past life regression, we can better understand (and perhaps even resolve!) the karmic issues that affect our relationships today.

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